What do MEN really want?

I had to write these judging form everyone responses to my question What Do Women Really Want?. Well most guys choose to believe is their MONEY... But I know is definitely not.And knowing full well that men and women will only favor their own sex in matters like these.

So am turning the table around to ask now...What Do Men Really Want?

I want to know a man's point of views on relationships, getting married and being alone. But like I always says men are always afraid of commitment.

When I say commitment, we all view this very differently. Most women view a steady relationship as one that involves commitment, love, attention, romance, security, respect, trust friendship, family and friends, future, planning and loyality. While men see this differently. Like lose of their priceless freedom. They want to enjoy thierselves with different sexual partners throughout the rest of their lives. These are both choices, but it depends on the individual. And what we woman want to make out of it. You 'd know when you are been use and when you are not.

However, nobody falls in love because they have sex. That is a fallacy. If it were true, there'd be a lot fewer marriages.(Well it might happened) But I'm sure most people do not necessarily expect anything from such relationship. People particularly women allow themselves to fall in love with an ideal - not the real person. So far there is a little comfort.They will go any length to make a relationship work.

So lets hear it..What do men really think of women and what do they expect out of women? What do men really want out of life? Do they really want to get married or do they just want to have sex with whomever before they make the step into a relationship?

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Yets Lade Olayinka Adenubby said...

me dnt believe in men..loool i will be back

Moyosore Jelil said...

Men want reliable and pious woman to be the custodian of his heart.

Yets Lade Olayinka Adenubby said...

lol i will be back...actually to sum it up.....real men dont exist...only fake men do looooooooooooooool

Yets Lade Olayinka Adenubby said...

lol i will be back...actually to sum it up.....real men dont exist...only fake men do looooooooooooooool

Yets Lade Olayinka Adenubby said...

looooooooooooooool

Moyosore Jelil said...

real men always exist...but reliable ladies are rare.

Yets Lade Olayinka Adenubby said...

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm looooooooooooooooool

Bashorun Thorpeh said...

My love......Men do not even know what they want, they will want to keep a girl all to there self but wont want to plan or settle down with such girl, unless the girl is pushy, also they wont want her to go for good, at last they leave her after so many time wasted.

This days how many Nigerian guy will ask this Q "will you marry me?" its either the lady got preg along the line or smthng led to another, thay are all opportunist, they all take opportunity of time, place and event to act positively or negatively.

Taiwo all i know is that Men are not serious and don't wanna even get married or settled few of them want to, so why should ladies be, wen they are just out there to waste time.

All men can challenge this if its a lie.

Jesse Adeniji said...

Big LIE sista. If your position is right, how come billions of men are married? I am married. What i got in my wife is a true friend, who fought me when she needed to and loved me irrespective. She didn't have to get pregnant for me either. SHE SAW THE POTENTIAL IN ME WAY BEFORE I BECAME THE REAL THING and i respect her for that. We have our ups and downs yet we go on. Thats love.

Growing up, i noticed that girls do not give those who really loved them the chance to be with them. Probably down to surging hormones and disrespect for these guys because of pecuniary issues.

I was in the choir at different times and churches, i always noticed that the girls wont date the broda who wears Micheal Jackson not-to-touch-ground trousers, but with love and sincerity in his eyes. They'd rather go for the non-committant broda who is an epitome of what the pastor describes as wordlly.

These guys go on, despite their poor backgrounds, to make it big in life, and when they do, they also take their time to select the best. That's why the cycle goes on and on.

In my undergraduate years, i went after a girl i really loved, she told me i was infatuated. That experience made me do a rethink, do these guys want the truth? Today, she's divorced and suffered in an abusive situation. I feel for her though. I am not saying she got into it because she wouldnt check me out.

Quite a lot of ladies look out for their knight in shining armour from Mills & Boon books or films, but i tell you, it doesn't always pan out like that.

By the way, i know a couple of guys who are carefree and double date girls because they're plain selfish. So i say pray to God and follow your heart.

Emeka Nwani said...

men want wife materials and not just a girl who is not serious.
men want women who can bring out the best in them.

Kingsley Ehis Ighodalo said...

TEL "EM JESSE..

Ayotunde Shegun Adedayo-Blackson said...

men want independent lady who is ready to put more into the relationship than just asking for money and sex...there's alot to this

i will be right back!!

David Adeyemi said...

Men want peaceful,loving,caring,nonnagging, respectable lady...
ladiy who know how to keep d home, mature, dat ve respect for relationship etc.....who will be dre come rain,sunshine,heat,up,down, in nakedness, hunger, plenty etc

Adeyinka Vincent Olanrewaju said...

hmmm be right back ....

Abidemi Babaolowo Oderinlo said...

you really think you wan to know waht men want
i don't knowabout others, but i think i will just stick to you
if that will be ok...lol

Temitope Amodu said...

While i agree with Jesse, i would simply put our wants to be ... Peace of Mind.

Ikhiede Sahmmie said...

Jese has said it all...
check here http://www.facebook.com/friends/?id=833129463#/note.php?note_id=58008997264&ref=nf

"some may not be well spoken like us
some not as trendy, some not good looking
but God knows they truly did love us"

Yet, we look in the other direction n go after studs.

Osagu Charles said...

I believe men want women to Love them for who they are, and not what they are WORTH. Unfortunately, most women assess you by what you have.
Men want women who understands and trust them. I might sound like my Grandfather, but I am convince these are what men wants.

Seun Oloketuyi said...

GOOD AND GENIUE FRIENDSHIP,NOT DESPERADOS WHO ALL THEY WANT IS MONEY

Orimadegun Shakeerat Taiwo said...

Hmmmm.. I'm enjoying this...
But speak the truth oh...
Why are MEN never serious..
Why do they want to date this and that?
Why do they lie?

Balogun Aderonke said...

huh!...it everywhere girls.
Only if dey can give answers 2 dis Q...Gud
Dey always want 2 av their cake and eat it .
Bt girlfrd,with perseverance u wil definitely come
across ur hrt desires.Kip talkin 2 God,he is d best listener.

Ayotunde Shegun Adedayo-Blackson said...

@ Orimadegun: That's another whole Question entire and it's not apply to all men....

Saliu Abimbola Akeem said...

mimi maybe u have been moving with fake guys for way too long...men know what they want...its women that are confused...a guy wants to ***** u...u know but u think doing it might lead to something else..all emn want a respective,appreciative woman who does not think of give me this,buy me this...i want this...this has finished...men lie.......women lie too...infact they dress lies better than men..a gurl messes around in her teens all under the umbrella of having fun then when she is getting old she tires to tie the guy that has just started having fun.then she labels him a cheat...to cut tori short...there are good guys and bad ones.....they both know what they want.....

David Adeyemi said...

tank u saliu....u got it

Olusegun Sangowawa said...

Every man has his own strengths and his own issues and insecurities. Moreover, we go through different stages of life and relationships have different stages. What we want in a woman varies widely.

Olusegun Sangowawa said...

Actually asked some of my friends in a dicussion and here are some answers.. for the ladies in the house, take your pick :-)

* Men look for the outward appearance of physical health, e.g. clear, bright eyes, a body not too overweight and not too underweight, clean lustrous hair, clean nails, clean body, few if any blemishes.

* Men want someone beautiful but "beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

* Men want a woman who is honest, who he can trust completely, who is not likely to sneak around and sleep around with other guys.

* Someone with similar interests so they have something in common.

* A woman who will make an effort to please him.

* A woman who makes an effort to look her best.

* An appreciation of the man's job.

* Passion

* A woman whose ego isn't bigger than her hairstyle.

* A partner for his life.

* A partner for his soul.

Olusegun Sangowawa said...

* Someone who is caring. All men want to be looked after.

* Someone who has faith in him.

* A woman who is strong yet sometimes submissive.

* A woman who is strong but does not have an attitude.

* Someone who is not too loud.

* Someone who won't nag him beyond reason.

* A woman who challenges him and is full of the unexpected.

* An interesting woman.

* An intelligent woman.

* A woman who is not dumb (mediocre intelligence is fine).

* A woman who is smart enough to grasp new concepts.

* Someone artistic or creative.

* A woman can take care of herself without feeling that she has to compromise herself in a relationship.

* Someone who suits their individual personality.

* Some guys like an aggressive woman.

* Some guys like silent and reserved type.

* Someone in-shape/athletic.

* Interdependence, so that you trust and need each other.

* A sense of humor.

* A woman with a nice laugh.

* A positive personality.

* Men want a woman who is comfortable with her own sexuality.

* Someone up for action, or willing to get a little kinky in the bedroom.

* A positive personality

* A talent and passion in something worthwhile.

* Men respect and want a woman who knows her own mind; women who are true to themselves.

* Someone relaxed and confident.

* A woman with a good soul.

* A woman who has a great smile and loves to laugh and be herself but can also be intelligent and serious.

Spicytee said...

Hmmm...
Nice points...U actually took ur time on this...
I like it...I'm sure we women will find it useful...

Afrobabe said...

Aha...found the main joint!!!

Temite said...

HA! Men! Men! Men!
They want the same things Women want. They just think they dont or the society somehow socializes them to believe they dont want the same things. Love, GOOD SEX, Attention, Commitment, Support and a little bit of Freedom to still be themselves. c'est Fini.

StandTall-The Activist said...

Thank God you didn’t think it’s money that women want. That is an age long fallacy.

Well, my hubby was never afraid of commitment and he beliefs in friendship, partnership and companionship. We share everything in the home. No master, no slave. No boss…


But I have met and had some male friends that believe they needed to have women in their lives for “sex” r some even believe that what they want is a woman that can take care of their house (meaning a cook, wash woman and bed warmer) WTF – excuse my French. They needed slaves and bed warmers or baby makers – very unfair since their women would never fully know their minds.

Well, I am purely speaking from what I have accessed…

seamstress said...

we all want the same thing...love, respect, companionship the whole shabang!!!

MilesPerHour said...

I have too much to say in a comment box.

This is NOT a plug to read my posts but many of them are one the subject of relationships and love. If you want to know what this man thinks, visit my site and browse through a few.

I am a REAL man. I do exist. And there is one lady who can testify for I only will have her.

Jaguda said...

peace of mind

How To Attract Men said...

It is when men find that special woman for them that they suddenly know exactly what they want and are magically cured of commitment phobia!
What Men Really Want

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