Showing posts with label New Relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label New Relationship. Show all posts
7 Tips to Maintaining A New Relationship
Starting a new relationship make you feel new, happy, tense and optimistic all together. We are haunted by fear and insecurity if is ever going to work our or if we are good enough. Sometimes we let our imperfections get in the way. We ask ourselves myriads of questions. Is he going to like my bulging stomach, when I'm naked or complains that I snore or eat too much. But who says your new boyfriend doesn't have his own?
New relationship actually involves more than the uproar of yes I've got her now. I found him at last. It entails some things that we often neglect. Here are some tips to help you on a level footing in your new relationship.
1. Be friends first and Spend time together.
Friendship is a good thing to build a relationship on, once you have a good foundation, you build on it. New relationship need time to grow. You need to spend time together to analyze yourself and determine if truly you want to be together. Sometimes we need to know where the relationship is heading, but just spending quality time together.
2. Be sure to have good communication.
For a relationship to survive it must have a solid foundation and how do we achieve that. Communication? Tell them things about you; reveal new things about you that you know your partner will love as you get along. This way gets to know and understand each other.
3. Be comfortable and natural with you.
Don't try to be what you are not, don’t pretend to be nicer, and don’t pretend to like things he /she like. Don’t encourage tag-along. You should do things together that are both pleasing to both parties, not forcing them to like what you enjoy. Do have your own opinion about things when you want. Also don't spend too much money or be too critical. Just be you. Let your partner see the real you. And a candid advice to the ladies- Well make ups is nice but don't let tones of make up define who you are. try being natural once in a while. Your guy will not only see a new side of you, he will love you for just being you.
3. Carry on with your Life.
Meeting someone new does not necessarily say, you should not continue being yourself. Many of us are guilty of this. When we find new love, we neglect our friends, family, just because we want to spend quality time with our partner. And this is bad. For your relationship to survive you have to balance everything. Continue doing what you do before she or he tagged along. You need to show him/her that you are independent and remember you must be happy with yourself first, be confident.
4. Bring up issues you don't like.
Believe me, most of the things that often lead to break ups or arguments are things we have seen in the early stage of the relationship but we seldom raise because we are afraid to tell our partner or you consider them trivial. However these patterns build up over the time. So I advice you say your mind because if it happens repeatedly and you continue to keep mute, he/she will continue the behavioural pattern... But you can change it now, just be courteous and gentle in the manner you bring it out.
5. Respect
Respect each other’s time and privacy. Give him your attention, give him air to breath. But maintain your cool and don't be too clingy. Don't be overtly jealous. Is sometimes a turn off. If begin to get unnecessarily possessive, that's a relationship killer. Find things to occupy your mind and take things easy. Simply give your relationship the proper space it needs to grow.
6. Share Same Interest.
And having similar goals and dreams will also help you guys to grow. Be genuinely curious about what make your partner tick and happy and tap into whatever makes you complete with him. This will not alone help in cementing your relationship. It bring you closer to each other.
7. Be adventurous.
Variety does not mean another guy or girl. Have fun with each other while you are still dating and more when you take it further with romance and making love. Tell your partner what you like sexually. Be direct, yet gentle. It helps both of you to understand how your body works and what makes you happy and satisfy.I hope you find this helpful. Till next time. Keep smiling and loving.
Making Love And Relationship Work For You.
People go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others. There is no extra special relationship, none has a rare ability to do better than others. We are all just trying.
And yes we are all differnt in our approach to making it work. Because some go to extra effort to understand, develop and explore what they have. They read books, they investigate, and they put great effort into knowing and understanding what works and what doesn't work for them.They know what is good for them so they consciously feed on it and practice it.
They know there is no limit to the fun, joy excitement and enjoyment they can experience, they understand marriage and relationship cannot be left to mere chances.You really must work on it. They are aware that there are laws governing relationship and the outcome of that results. It is called the law of sowing and reaping. Some people want to sow the wrong things and still expect things to be wonderful, some want to walk in ignorance yet hope things will work out just fine. The truth is you get what you think you deserve.
We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. You must know that the more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves the way we are, and why we don't accept others the way they are.
Though love is a tricky thing. One must distinguish between what the mind says and what the heart says, and then we must decide which to follow. I must point out here that people who listen to their minds consider themselves the wiser ones. But the people who are led by their hearts are the luckier ones. If you look for love, you will find it but if you deliberately look for an obstacle to love, you will also find that too; the choice is yours. But if u painstakinly search for love. You will defintely see that too.
Hoever you must know that there is no limit to the joy, the romance, the victory you can experience. God created every relationship to excel.Work with God and he will show you how. Be ready to learn from others what you don't know. It’s important for you to remain empowered so that you don't make choices out of need or desperation. If you remain empowered enough to claim what’s your’s, remain true to your identity, and advocate for your dreams relentlessly, you will surely get it.
Some points to work on:-
1. You have a great role to play, in bringing out the great potentials within your relationship. You need to know them, develop them and use them to the full.
2. You need to know the importance of self loving, remember loving come from within.
3. You must understand and see love and relationship as they are and not what you what you want them to be.
4. You can never have everything on a platter of gold. Though every person is entitled to chose the path which works for them.
5. You must not lay too much emphases on looks or sex appeal because looks can be deceptives.People only want to see the substances you are made of,not looks without self respect or brain.
6. You should equate loving to happiness, so the more you want to be happy, the more love you should exude.
7. You need to know the importance of setting clear boundaries and when you say NO,meant it. Never settle for less.
8. You must learn to make a good friendship out of your partner,always remember friendship is the food to a good relationship.
9. You must understand and know what you really want out of the relationship.
10. You must always remember that anything worth achieving is worth working for.
11. You get what you believe you deserve. So aim high.
12. You must redefine your self worth and what you stand for
13. You need to know the difference between want and need.
14. You must share same values and ideas,your want,needs and interest must go through one channel.
15.You must make things happpen,bear in mind that wishing for something to happen and working toward making it happen are two different thing. So set the ball rolling.
So the bottom line is that is only you that knows what is good for you and what is not. So make a choice now and start living and loving. And lest I forget always know that there is absolutely joy in loving and being loved in return. Make it work and make it last.
Relationship....Are You Looking For A New Love?
And as long as one craved for a company, guys will always be guys,(hmm point of correction people will always be what they wanna be) You can either play desperate to them or play hard to get, they knew what you want and they know what to say if they must get at you.And once they know u are desperate in finding love, dating, marriage or what have you..they will treat you as they deem fit.
If a man is as good as he says, he'll romance you by every means he knows how to win you over.And if is a woman..she will flirt and seduce you until she get what she want....Nothing is guaranteed!!
See you might probably have been hurt before and in your mind's eye,every man/woman are the same, but you will never find out unless you give it a short.Also learn to be friends first for along while without promising anything.So if you find out that it wont work.There shouldn't be anything too tight in your gut;in relieving yourself from unwanted situation
I've learned that:
* Become friends first, and then if you both feel like you want more... then small steps, one-at-a-time, no rush! If its REAL, it will happen.
* Friendship is a good thing to build a relationship on, once you have a good foundation, you build on it. ...Never letting go of that friendship because that's what started it all. I've found out that what you do need to look out for,Is someone that you are comfortable with.Trust,love,faithfulness,sincerity etc will be earn along the way.
* One don't need to rush love... it'll happen when you least expect it...Just take that time in finding it.
* Date for a while and learn about one another. Past, present and future thoughts.
* Compromise if you must, everyone has to compromise a little. But with little sacrifices that we make both party happy.
....You cant possibly get everything on a platter of gold.Most times, you do really need to compromise.
I have always been someone that wont trade my wanted quality for anything.But after seeking fruitlessly. I found out that I do need to bend a little.
* Then make the best of the relationship; finding the perfect match for oneself is not easy because if it was easy finding a good person everyone would have one... Some people settle for less... the wise ones are picky, and choose someone who as beautiful inside as they are outside... Somehow everything works out in this world, just the way we want it to be, some good/some not as good. We choose our own paths, make our way. Its just life... Be what you want to be, don't let anyone hold you back.
Above all you need to check yourself too,maybe the problem might even be from your side,maybe you are not yet ready to give up your freedom and singleness.. I know there is a pot for every lid..someone is out there for everyone... One just need to find it patiently.
So my dear.That's what I have discovered about relationship and finding new relationship.Hope you find some point in it.
NB: I posted these on Facebook long ago and it add mad comments,will find time to upload them in here sometimes soon.
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