What If???

What if everyone needs love?

Is it a disease? Well, if it is, I'm sure hope its catching

because they need to pour it into a bottle,

label it, and sprinkle it all over the people

men and women who ever loved, searched, cried,

or died for love..So they could all catch and value it.



So...What if I'm in love?

Is it a crime? Arrest me!

Because I'm happily in love

And crazy about you.

And I wanna rock your world



What if I asked for honesty?

Is it insane? Commit me!!

Because I want Happiness, not tears;

Truths not lies; Pleasure not pain;

Sunshine not rain; A man not a child!



What if I like men?

Is it a sin?

If you don't like women of color

because we are... Dark, Fair,

Brown eyes, flexy hips

Chocolate, cream or white tooth,

Big or cute Lipped, Big and shapely backside,

Busty, small soft and round breast

Slim, voluptuous or Plus size

But simply BEAUTIFUL all at the same time!



So what if I want commitment?

Does it bother you that much because

I want a man who wants me...

Loves me and trusts me, and respects me

And gives me everything because

I give him everything back, PLUS!!

I've got rights,

same as you! I have worked for them,

And I've earned it,

From being his dutiful wife,cater for you, cook for you and carry your baby



What if I want unconditional love?

I love me, and I want you to love me too,

But I am as I've always been,

Near you, close to you, beside you,

strong giving, loving and just for you.

10 Honest Things About me..


Hmmm, I have been reading a lot of honestly memes from fellow bloggers lately. And is amazing how you guys completely bare it all out. So I'm joining the club today. So where should I start?.. Hmmm..(fingers rambling on the keyboard while searching my mind) So here we go..


1. I'm not perfect and yes not everyone will appreciate me or my person but everyone is entitled to their opinion about me.I don't judge people but I’ve always believed in the inherent goodness of people but some people just are not that nice. It takes me a long time to admit that…

2. I find out that I am scared of making relationship work for me - But people always judge me wrong, with my exposure to love,life and relationship. Guys says I am classy,too knowledgeable and too pretty to be single. well maybe I am, if I am , that is a gift from above, you do not inherit class you earn it through the years.I am an open and honest person that says things from the heart and I do believe the heart is always right.It hasn't failed me yet. If they were meant to. People and relationships are meant to be experienced; they should each leave their print on your heart - good or bad. The bottom line is that I just want someone to love and be love in return. Someone to call my OWN

3. I could be a difficult person,stubborn and am a hard nut to crack but beyond this facade I'm a very soft person inside. I cried easily. Just like every other women, I have my fears,my own shortcomings too. I'm a very go getter person, when I want something I go for it. I love my in-dependency.

4. I have had sex in the pool before,it was in the night though, we had gone for an excursion at famous ikogosi natural spring water in Ekiti from my school, where we met about three other school, it was a night to remember and the sex was breathtaking.

5. I have dated a married guy before and believe me it sucks. You only have him for the moment it is. The rest is crap and waste of your emotion and time.

6. I'm sucker for a beautiful woman, yes...I used to be Bi-curious till I met a girl.(But don't ask me if anything happen-cos I'm not telling). But now I just appreciate a beautiful women as me and nothing more.

7.I love good looking guys but I always appreciate well manner ones. I hate players and those that only want to get into your pant. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrgg and their seems to be trailer loads of them,

8. I have a twin brother and he is a very nice person, I have seen him with his girlfriend and he always touched my heart. I always pray to have someone like that in my life.

9. I don't get angry easily but when I do, sometimes is always brutal. So I always take time to exercise a lot of patience before taking actions. And while am at it, just let me be. I hate begging. It only make things worse.

10. I had sex in a class room in class and I'm not going to tell which. It was an adventurous mind of mine running wild with me. And you know what, the though of been caught by the night guards and oh boy, it was fun. We both came on time.



And speaking of that,the other day,I slept off while reading
Roc 

blog page and guess what? I dreamt about him. Can you imagine? But believe me you don't wanna know what I dreamt about. Things you blogger are doing to me. No thanks to bumight,Afrobabe

,Vera,L-vii

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So there is the 10 honest truth about me and hope you all won't skin me alive???

What does Love mean?

Slow down for three minutes to read this. It is so worth it. Touching words from the mouth of babes.
What does Love mean? A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8
year-olds, "What does love mean?" The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have
imagined. See what you think:



"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her
toenails anymore.

So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got
arthritis too. That's love."

Rebecca- age 8




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"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.
You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

Billy - age 4
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"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne
and they go out and smell each other."

Karl - age 5
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"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French
fries without making them give you any of theirs."

Chrissy - age 6
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"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

Terri - age 4
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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip
before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

Danny - age 7
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"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing,
you still want to be together and you talk more.
My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss"

Emily - age 8
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"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening
presents and listen."

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
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"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who
you hate,"

Nikka - age 6

(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

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"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it
everyday."

Noelle - age 7
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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still
friends even after they know each other so well."

Tommy - age 6
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"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at
all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."

Cindy - age 8
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"My mommy loves me more than anybody

You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."

Clare - age 6
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"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."

Elaine-age 5
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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is
handsomer than Robert Redford."

Chris - age 7
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"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone
all day."

Mary Ann - age 4
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"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old
clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."

Lauren - age 4
________________________________

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars
come out of you." (what an image)
Karen - age 7
________________________________

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's
gross."

Mark - age 6
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"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you
mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

Jessica - age 8
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And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked
about a contest he was asked to judge.

The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an
elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's
yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy
said,

"Nothing, I just helped him cry"
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When there is nothing left but God, that is when you find out that God
is all you need. Take 60 seconds and give this a shot! All you do is
simply say the following small prayer for the person who sent you this.

Father, God bless all my friends in whatever it is that You know they
may be needing this day! And may their life be full of your peace,
prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a closer relationship with
you. Amen.

Then tag five other people, including the one who sent it to
you. Within hours you caused a multitude of people to pray for other
people. Then sit back and watch the power of God work in your life.

I tag: Baroque, Jabez,Milesperhour, Afroblog, BSNC, NaijaShawty,NE, Chayoma,Optimistic, Jhazmyn, Oyin,Caramel,Rethots, Verastic,Roc,Leggy,SSD,The activist,Justdoyin,DBthinks,Naboulove in fact I tag everyone(my head wan explode)...LOL.. I love you all.



P. S. Five is good, but more is even gooder!

Making Love And Relationship Work For You.

Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning


People go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others. There is no extra special relationship, none has a rare ability to do better than others. We are all just trying.

And yes we are all differnt in our approach to making it work. Because some go to extra effort to understand, develop and explore what they have. They read books, they investigate, and they put great effort into knowing and understanding what works and what doesn't work for them.They know what is good for them so they consciously feed on it and practice it.

They know there is no limit to the fun, joy excitement and enjoyment they can experience, they understand marriage and relationship cannot be left to mere chances.You really must work on it. They are aware that there are laws governing relationship and the outcome of that results. It is called the law of sowing and reaping. Some people want to sow the wrong things and still expect things to be wonderful, some want to walk in ignorance yet hope things will work out just fine. The truth is you get what you think you deserve.

We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. You must know that the more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves the way we are, and why we don't accept others the way they are.

Though love is a tricky thing. One must distinguish between what the mind says and what the heart says, and then we must decide which to follow. I must point out here that people who listen to their minds consider themselves the wiser ones. But the people who are led by their hearts are the luckier ones. If you look for love, you will find it but if you deliberately look for an obstacle to love, you will also find that too; the choice is yours. But if u painstakinly search for love. You will defintely see that too.

Hoever you must know that there is no limit to the joy, the romance, the victory you can experience. God created every relationship to excel.Work with God and he will show you how. Be ready to learn from others what you don't know. It’s important for you to remain empowered so that you don't make choices out of need or desperation. If you remain empowered enough to claim what’s your’s, remain true to your identity, and advocate for your dreams relentlessly, you will surely get it.

Some points to work on:-

1. You have a great role to play, in bringing out the great potentials within your relationship. You need to know them, develop them and use them to the full.
2. You need to know the importance of self loving, remember loving come from within.
3. You must understand and see love and relationship as they are and not what you what you want them to be.
4. You can never have everything on a platter of gold. Though every person is entitled to chose the path which works for them.
5. You must not lay too much emphases on looks or sex appeal because looks can be deceptives.People only want to see the substances you are made of,not looks without self respect or brain.
6. You should equate loving to happiness, so the more you want to be happy, the more love you should exude.
7. You need to know the importance of setting clear boundaries and when you say NO,meant it. Never settle for less.
8. You must learn to make a good friendship out of your partner,always remember friendship is the food to a good relationship.
9. You must understand and know what you really want out of the relationship.
10. You must always remember that anything worth achieving is worth working for.
11. You get what you believe you deserve. So aim high.
12. You must redefine your self worth and what you stand for
13. You need to know the difference between want and need.
14. You must share same values and ideas,your want,needs and interest must go through one channel.
15.You must make things happpen,bear in mind that wishing for something to happen and working toward making it happen are two different thing. So set the ball rolling.

So the bottom line is that is only you that knows what is good for you and what is not. So make a choice now and start living and loving. And lest I forget always know that there is absolutely joy in loving and being loved in return. Make it work and make it last.

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True Love!!!

Is there really true love?..Maybe yes, perhaps not! Behold

If you are wealthy and there I come, saying am truly in luv with you, may be am truly in luv with your fat wallets

If you are dashing, handsome and I say am truly in luv with you, perhaps I'm truly charmed with ur charming look.

If you are a genius and I say am truly in luv with you, I might just as well mean that am truly in luv with your ingenuity.

If you are young, ambitious, well focused and purposeful and I say am truly in luv with you, maybe am in luv with your fame."

Is there really an unconditional love? Maybe yes, perhaps not...
But what is really true love???

Let me share my thoughts on what is true love with you:.

True love is about trust, honesty and a willingness to work out problem. Every relationship have their low points but if each partner is strongly committed and trusting enough. These love will flourish. It has been wisely said that true love begins when being in love fades.

True love is all those small tiny things that makes you do together that makes love worth sharing..

True love is giving, caring,sharing and understanding each other's point of view while compromising to reach an agreement if one must.

True love is taking your partner as he/she is and not expecting the one you love to be perfect.

True love self-sacrificing and ever willing to forgive each other other and other again no matter what.

True love is powerful, passionate, love is when you would give your life for this person.

True love means that you would be there to wipe away tears when there sad, Laugh and cry with them,basically be there when in need.

True love is not just about emotions.

True love is giving, caring and a choice. Cos it is a choice to commit to someone, to stand by the person, protect the person and fight for the person.

Above all,True love is powerful, Love is passionate. Love is when you would give your life for this person.

Most importantly true love can occur at any stage. YOU are the only person who knows if your love is true, whether or not the object of your love agrees, because love is not measured by reciprocity. It is measure by loving your spouse, be affectionate anywhere even in public, treat them with respect and honor,protect him or her and finally, never run away from love. You'll probably be hurt, but keep trying until your find your own true love.The bottom line is that we all need to love and be loved in return.

When the Line Is Drawn

Who doesn’t want to be in relationship or get married these days? Every eight out of ten individual wants to because relationships, love and marriage is such a wonderful thing that fills everyone with warmth, with the joy of being somebody’s. And whether in cold or warmth, people are happy to find eternal happiness in each other ’s heart.

And of course just as people are getting hooked, there are thousand breaking up at this moment. But whether its worth our while or not, is not the problem. The problems begin long before the relationship or marriage is cemented. Couples who began their dating relationships starry-eyed and dreamy all too often end them red-eyed and dismayed.

Girlfriends and boyfriends, who were certain theirs was the romance of the century, find themselves burn out in flames for reasons they do not understand. It is difficult to know just how painful a relationship breakup can be until it happens in one’s own life. Sadness, Intense feelings and despair are a common reaction to the end of a relationship. Psychological research shows that the emotional response to the breakup of a romantic relationship strongly resembles reactions to what would appear to be more traumatic losses, like the death of a loved one. The following are major emotional phases to expect in the loss of a romantic relationship.

Shock :- It will be very difficult to believe and admit that the relationship is ending or has ended. It is painful to accept a loved and trusted partner seeming to care so little about the relationship and your feelings.

Grief and Despair :- It is normal to feel sad and lonely, and to cry too. You may feel an intense need at times to make contact with your ex-partner. Particular times during the day, such as sleeping alone, waking up in the morning, or been in places you ought to have been together alone may be especially difficult.

Confusion :- Life may feel strange or incomplete without your significant other, you might desperately miss what is gone and wish things could go back to the way they were, you might question who you are, and the meaning of life without your partner.

Fear :- It may be frightening and difficult to imagine life without the significant other. You may fear that you will never see a person like him or her again, find love or be happy again without the person.

Jealousy : - You may experience jealousy or worry about your partner supposedly being with someone else.

Anger and Bitterness : - Anger with a partner who has caused pain by initiating or contributing to the breakup is a common emotional response and feeling of betraying the trust in which you both shared.

Self-blame and Guilt :- If you initiated the breakup, you may feel guilty about causing pain to your partner. You may be worried over what has caused the breakup, and may attempt to “bargain” with an ex-partner to give the relationship another chance.

Relief : -You heave a sigh of relief from negative feelings associated with the relationship that resulted from arguments, fighting, jealousy, stress, insecurity, or boredom.

What to do

It is true that there is no way around feeling emotional pain after a relationship breakup. Your feelings reflect the importance of your partner in your life, as well as your own ability to allow yourself to be intimate and close with an important other. What really matter is how far can one cope when the line is drawn? “Its over,”

Here are some hints in getting over it completely:

*Make out time to get yourself back together on a level footing-Remember life isn’t bed of roses, you win some, you lose some and always bear it in mind that what will be your, will be yours.

*Make changes in your life and express yourself creatively. Develop new interests, activities and relationships in your life separate from your ex-partner. Redecorate or paint your living space. Focus on doing things that reflect your unique nature, and that are a not reminder of your ex-partner. Plan new events with friends or family on holidays or anniversary dates of the relationship. Engage in activities that help you recover a sense of meaning and balance, such as religious/spiritual practice, art, poetry or music.

*Seek support from friends and family. Social support is one of the most important factors in coping with a loss. Reach out to people who care and who will listen to your feelings and provide encouragement. Spending time with others may be difficult at first, but will help you to realize that there are other people in your life who care about you and are there to support you.

*Don’t rush head-on unto another relationship when you’ve barely gotten over the last-Remember you don’t have to try every dick and harry before you know the right one for you.

*Don’t over expect things on a first, enjoy it for what it is “A Date” and nothing more and bear in mind that if you expect everything to be romantic and perfect immediately, you might just be building a castle in the air. Remember love is not what you get off-handed on a plate.

*Meet as many people as possible, so you can make your judgment and choose wisely this time-Dear he/she might just be around the corner. But take it gradually.

*Don’t go to far quickly, you re bound to be disappointed again. Free your mind and take your time in finding love again.

*Though you might need a relationship badly but don’t compromise yourself and get yourself to be used and dump again-Remember it is better to be alone than being in a bad relationship.

*Be ready for commitment, The love that we all want from a spouse is not possible without both having the commitment to try to make it work

*Lastly, make a wise choice, for the fact that he throws money here and there, dashing, tall, beautiful or he or she is your dream mate doesn’t mean he or she is the one. Remember, material things, physical attributes may soon fade out, then the truly color will emerge and you will be disappointed again.

If all these could be adhered to, you could find love again, though love could be dangerous at times but every wonderful for those who have find the courage in finding eternal love but if it’s not respected, it could be your worst enemy.

Many relationships fail because they are built too fast. Take your time, converse and communicate. View your partner as a person, not just as an object that makes you feel good. Have this in mind you know If you want fast food, you will get it cheap and instant and in a paper box. If you want a feast, you take your time to prepare it lovingly and slowly, Make this last a long time. I wish you the best.

How To Attract The Right Woman!!

You can make a guy like a babe but you cant make a babe like a guy. No matter how the guy tries to win her love if she doesn't like him,then it wont work out.

But never make a mistake of thinking showering a lady gift will make her succumb to you,you will be far,far wrong.

Though gifts do helps in cementing relationship but will never assist you to win a girl's genuine love and affection.
And most guys have this habit of coercing ladies to get into relationship with them,you might be lucky to get her at the long run but my advice is don't force it as a woman knows if she really want a guy the moment she sees him.

Most women plays by their own rule-Their ideal man or their wanted quality. Though you might also be lucky to get them change this but believe me it has to worth their while forget about money in this context.

Money can never be prerequisite to love. Most time love is what all there is to it.
Though there is nothing wrong when a girl wants little money. But as long as she doesn't get comfortable with the habit.

Here are few point to note:
*Women want a man who knows what he want.
*Women need a man who have self confidence, a man who is more comfortable with himself..
*Women want a trustworthy man,honesty is the key.

*Women want a romantic guy who excite and intrigue them all the time.

*Women want a good looking,neat and attractive guy,he doesn't necessarily have to be handsome.
*Women want a hardworking guy.

*Women love an intelligent guy.

*Women appreciate a man who listen and communicate with them even if it is sweet nonsense they have to say.

*Women want commitment and attention,a man who attend to their emotion and sexual need.

*Women admire a man who respect and value them.

*Women love a man who doesn't take her for granted when flirting with other babes.This something men can't do without but if you do such don't ever let her get wind of it.