Aftermath of Feb 14th and my Birthday

I spent my birthday/valentine day alone and it was nothing new. It has always been like that. Even when I had a boyfriend, My ex has never been there. They are always busy on Valentine's day...But thats life for you. I had thought this year will be different. But is the same Old story. But I cant help asking why loneliness knows me by name.

Hitherto, I had planned to go to the beach with few friends. But not so many people turn out, the ones dat promised to come sef na under likely..I will call you. So I fashy it and I decide to just stay home,cook and go to the mall in preparation for Sunday.

I really wish I could spend the day with someone I really love,who care about me pieces. Alas men proposes and God disposes. Nevertheless I enjoyed my day with adorations from friends and well wishers and on facebook, I had over 400 birthday messages which I took turns in replying everybody individually..Its was a terrific job..But since I'm stucked at home.It really helps soothing my loneliness.

In the night. I slept of like a baby and I dreamt of him,(I'm going to save u lots of details) And in that dream. I found me in his hand. He was totally out of this world and he treated me to special delight and he had me where I want to be.Makes me giggles,happy and fulfilled as I desired.

The fun proper started on the second day, I had few friends in my house,where we just jolly jolly with my mum's special beans for the twins.

I didnt receive so many gift..But I got me a cake,a perfume, a dress and a champagne. At least I've got to make me really happy now.. My friend gave some Mary Kay's beauty gift set and a cute lil teddy bear, can u believe thats the first time in my late twenties someone will be giving me a teddy..Anyway its awesome, I love it. I also received more perfume and deodorant from one of my beautiful friend, a shoe from my old school buddy and I received few cards and one from an admirer. He scribed a short note. Have been dying to talk to you. I really want to make you mine forever, if you will let me.Hmmmmm.Sound nice..And he promise to show his face soon(He should make sense ooo).LOL

Anyway yours truly have a new birthday resolution, the first 5 prioriy are..MARRIAGE & MAKE BABIES...SELF EMPLOYED...CAR...BABIES...AND FINISH ONE OF MY BOOKS. May Almighty GOD help me.

Thank you guys for been there for me. I really appreciate. Love you all loads.

Common Sense By Kikelomo Ogundare-Greene

My parents told me about Mr. Common Sense early in my life and told me I would do well to call on him when making decisions. It seems he was always around in my early years but less and less as time passed by.

Today I read his obituary. Please join me in a moment of silence in
remembrance, for Common Sense had served us all so well for so many generations.

Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has
been with us for many years.

No one knows for sure how old he was since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape.

He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as knowing when to come in out of the rain, why the early bird gets the worm, life
isn't always fair, and maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don't spend more than you earn) and reliable parenting strategies (adults, not children are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a six-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job they themselves failed to do in disciplining their unruly children. It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer Aspirin, sun lotion or a sticky plaster to a student, but could not inform the parents when a student became pregnant and
wanted to have an abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the Ten Commandments became contraband; churches became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims.

Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.

Common Sense was preceded in death by his parents, Truth and Trust; his wife, Discretion; his daughter, Responsibility; and his son, Reason.

He is survived by three stepbrothers; I Know my Rights, Someone Else is to Blame, and I'm a Victim.

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone. If you still remember him, pass this on. If not, join the majority and do nothing.

To All My Friends On My Birthday....

Hello everyone,

I just added a year today and you know what it feels like,waking up to know you have just grown up more. Well I cant but thank the Almighty God for seeing me through another year with his love, care, mercy and having wonderful friends,family,colleagues and well wishers just like you.

You have been there for me all through the years and I so much appreciate it.Its been a pleasure having you to count on in time of needs and trouble times. I knew something must have drawn you me to you or you to me. I don't want to ever lose the true meaning of friendship with anyone of you.

Also to my twin brother,in as much as you are naughty most of the time and you never regard me as your senior, I still love you cos u're my lil bro. Here is to wish you great happiness, a joy that never ends and may all your dreams come through lil bro!!!..LOL

And to my majesty self..I'm.. I mean just speechless.Just love to continue praying to God to always make me happy and my all my spoken or silent dreams come through too.

Jokes apart, every year that I found myself still breathing and another year been added to my age..I count my blessings. Truly I have won some and I have lost some but I have been able to count each disappointment as a blessing.And I have learned so much to make every mistake an experience.

Though I have had my own fair share of loving,heartbreaks,lonely times,happy times and not too many happier times. Bearing it mind that tough times dot last and I have been able to move on with my life without looking back cos I take everything that happen to me good or bad as an experience and it has helped me a lot in a great deal.

And life is a lesson..I have been opportune to meet a quite a few of you guys out there who had thought me a lot but I would also say there are some point too when you would have actually learn one or two things from me too.

I really don't wanna bore you with a long note. I just want to thank you all for the love, happiness, the warmth and sunshine you have brought into my life. I've always knew you all came into my life for a reason. And yes, it is true, I've learned(still learning) a whole lots from you guys.. So don't mind sometimes when I'm been naught with my status message or being too lovey dovey in my notes and writing...I'm only "WO" "HU" man...LOL

Finally I want you all to know that I'd value our friendship and I appreciate that having you all around me,showering me love and attention and without you,my world would have been totally boring.....It has really been nice having you all in my life.

How to spend your Valentine Day whether in a relationship or not

Every year February 14, is celebrated as Saint Valentines Day all across the world. Valentine’s Day is the most awaited day of the year for all youngsters . There is a holiday on this day so that all lovers can enjoy and express there feelings to one whom they love. Even though the history of St. Valentine’s Day and the patron Saint behind it is shrouded in mystery but we all treat month of February as the Month of Romance. On which lovers express their love for each other which involves mutual exchange of gift, sending Valentine's cards,flowers, confectioneries and much more. Although some still holds the believe that they have better things to do with their money than to shower their loved ones with over-priced material things. But you don't really have to spend a lot of money to show him/her you care. 

And regardless of your past or current belief about Valentine's day, there are many ways to make the day special whether one is in single or in a relationship.But first remember that the day isn't just about exchanging of gift, is a day to reflect on and share your love with one another.


Valentine's Day for Couples

Some couples have long-standing traditions for Valentines Day, like returning to the restaurant where they got engaged or where they first met. Other couples are less naturally romantic. They don't need to wait till Val before their creative mind start working. But if you are still at lose..Here re few suggestion.

1. Do something your partner has always wanted to try. Surprise your husband with you normally refuse to do.
2. Write your partner a letter or poem.People often forget to tell their loved ones how much they're care. Write a heartfelt note,even if it's three paragraph and tell your partner how wonderful he or she is. 
3. Do something you haven't done in ages. Did you once love to club out together, dance together, did one of you love to cook when you first met? Try your hand on this and recreate a happy memory together. 
4.Plan a special dinner, and wash it down with a good wine. and romantic day in eachothers arms 
5.Give your spouse a gift you know he or she will value a lot. Like something he or she has been hoping to buy.

Valentine's Day for New Relationships

Here Valentines Day can be tricky, you may probably think, just how many dates have we had to think we are already in a"relationship"? If you've only been out a few times, can you expect him/her to send gift or flowers? Is he/she going to be mad if you don't plan a romantic evening? What is going to happen on that day? You may probably think how can you celebrate love when you're not even sure how much you like each other or if you will eventually end up with eachother? 

I will advice that you guys should sit down and talk about it. You might find that you both feel the same way about that day. Maybe you were both secretly hoping the other wanted to celebrate or not. So in the end,both of you wont be disppointed. But hey it's just a silly holiday.Nevertheless you can still try the following:

1.You can still exchange gift, flowers, cards etc.

2. You can spend the day together while trying to identify what both of you can achieve together.Remember this is the first val day, you two will be spending together.So make it count.

3. Make it as romantic as it could be.

4. Write a poem for him or her.

5. Enjoy each other company,warmth as much as possible.

Valentine's Day for the singles

I know how boring and depressing valentine day could be for the singles out there. But don't fret, Valentine is just a day and if you are not in any relationship now, there are ways you can make yourself happy that you wont know when the day will roll off and the Val madness will soon fade off.

Valentine's Day doesn't have to be a romantic holiday, but it can be a time when you remind all of your friends, family and colleagues how much you love and appreciate them.But most people feel bad because they don't have a love in their life.

Don't feel there is nothing wrong with you if you're not in a relationship. Your worth comes from what you are, not who you're with.You may think that your old relationships as missed opportunities. But it is not.Look to the future. The best way to attract love is to feel good about your own life. Even those happy couples you see were single before the met their current love. But then they've had their share of romantic failures and heartbreaks too. 

If you are not in a relationship now doesn't meant you cant be happy. There are ways you could enjoy your valentine day without disturbing your thought.

1. Do something for yourself at home or treat yourself to something special outside. You deserve it...You can saddle yourself with a wine and a bubble bath, a trip to the massage therapist and spend the time and money you would normally have spent on a partner for Valentine's Day and devote all of that energy to yourself, instead.

2. A night curled up with a long-awaited movie or book might be perfect.

3. Go to the club or bar or attend an event.There are singles like you out there,who are out for the fun of it.
  
4.. You are not the only person coping with being single on Valentine's Day, there are many out there who are as single as you - find them or spend the day friends and family and cheer each other up.

5. Take some time to re-evaluate what you really want in a relationship. Are your relationships not lasting because you're choosing partners who aren't capable of maintaining a mature, loving and steady relationship? 

And finally, whether you are married, in a relationship remember love should be celebrated everyday, not just because is valentine day. And for the singles,always remember there is someone out there for you, you just have to wait. But show some love to your family, friends and hey you can val me...I'm all yours...Hehehe..Happy Valentine DAY!!!

Dread Yourself

Ever wanted to change your hair to dread? Here are few tips on ho to get started and maintaining it.



What You Need:-
1. Stiff dread comb - a metal flea combs works well

2. Rubber bands

3. DreadFX Dreadlock Wax


How To Make Your Own Dreadlocks

1. Wash your hair

Use a residue free shampoo. Do not use a conditioner.
Let the hair dry completely.


2. Section your hair

Choose the size you will make the dreads (approx. 1 inch by 1 inch sections works well)
Not too big, or they will not hold.
You can use rubber bands to hold each section while you section the rest of your hair.


3. Backcombing (combing towards the scalp)

Take a section of hair, starting with sections at the back of the head.
Use a stiff dread comb to back comb hair
Remove the rubber band.
Begin close to the scalp and backcomb small sections at a time (approx. half an inch)
Keep back-combing until it dreads down to the end.
Once finished that section of hair put one rubber band on the tip and one on the root.


4. Apply DreadFX dread lock Wax

Use DreadFX dread wax to rub in to the dread with your fingers.
Start at the roots Rub the wax into your fingers first to soften it up.
Work the wax into the dread lock with your thumb and forefinger
When fully worked in, the dread wax will no longer be visible on the hair.

Work your way up to the tip adding dread wax as needed . (But work in between you head anti-clock wise)


5. Repeat

Continue forward on the head spending approx. 4 - 5 minutes on each section.
Remember! This is a long process that will take 5 - 6 (or more) hours.
If a friend is doing this for you make sure it is a good friend. Have lots of
munchies on hand as well as lots of good Reggae music...Then dread yourself away!!!

More tips...

Before you begin to dread your hair, is advisable that you grow your hair to a couple of inches, to the point where you can braid or twist it.

*Oils are usually the number one choice for dread nourishment..So try applying some oil or wax as necessary. Too much of oil though will clogged your scalp.
*I read somewhere that it takes up to 6-8weeks for a dread to form..So my dear it takes dedication and patience to get the long flowing dreads that everyone admires.
*Only wash you dread after it is formed..Wash while using your hand anti-clockwisely)

What do MEN really want?

I had to write these judging form everyone responses to my question What Do Women Really Want?. Well most guys choose to believe is their MONEY... But I know is definitely not.And knowing full well that men and women will only favor their own sex in matters like these.

So am turning the table around to ask now...What Do Men Really Want?

I want to know a man's point of views on relationships, getting married and being alone. But like I always says men are always afraid of commitment.

When I say commitment, we all view this very differently. Most women view a steady relationship as one that involves commitment, love, attention, romance, security, respect, trust friendship, family and friends, future, planning and loyality. While men see this differently. Like lose of their priceless freedom. They want to enjoy thierselves with different sexual partners throughout the rest of their lives. These are both choices, but it depends on the individual. And what we woman want to make out of it. You 'd know when you are been use and when you are not.

However, nobody falls in love because they have sex. That is a fallacy. If it were true, there'd be a lot fewer marriages.(Well it might happened) But I'm sure most people do not necessarily expect anything from such relationship. People particularly women allow themselves to fall in love with an ideal - not the real person. So far there is a little comfort.They will go any length to make a relationship work.

So lets hear it..What do men really think of women and what do they expect out of women? What do men really want out of life? Do they really want to get married or do they just want to have sex with whomever before they make the step into a relationship?

I want to burn my running shoes...

I have been running, yes but it wasn't intentionally, I was just scared. I'm scared of trying and failing again. I'm scared of empty promises that only bring anguish in the end. I'm scared of falling in love again and have it thrown back at me. But I really cant help thinking if I've been fair to those seeking my hands in relationship.


If I've been fair to Mr.A, who is arrogant, aggresive and doesn't respect a women.

Mr B. is just terrible bad player..I cant even touch him with a a ten-foot pole

Mr C, very single but he is not ready for commitment.

Mr D, is a doubting thomas, and he lacks confidence,he is not so sure, if he can cope with me,cos I'm just too learned,a carrier woman and just too strong as a woman and he is scared-I dont know how that is a crime.

Mr.E,he is the explorer, I cant promise you anything, but lets see what will happen as time goes on..Whatever that means, But while watching as times goes, my brother want sex oh..I guess we are seeing what will happen on that too.

Mr. F.. is funny, witty, but took me for granted, I like you, I want to be with you but he still want to date some other women and I need to understand that.(Hissed). And me I must be a man's number one priority and must have my dully respect.

Mr.G,who has a girlfriend, and he is attracted to me and he cant seems to get over me.

Mr.H,think is hot and I must jump into bed,with his sugar coated mouth and lousy open lines that men are attracted by your look or body and is when they feel the content that they will know,if they want to keep you- Crap, though attraction is important

Mr.I is very much insecure and think that I have too many male friends than females and he is scared.

Mr.J is a complete jerk, I wouldn't even want to ask myself what I'm doing with him.

Mr.K, think the key to dating a woman is to be domineering,if I must date, you have do what I want, you'll change ur phone numbers,email etc.

Mr.L, is a loser who doesnt know what he want

Mr.M, is a silly mummy's pet, my mum is dis..my mum is that. Aaaahhhhhhhhh

Mr.N is I just want company and NO string attached

Mr.O, is just overbearing

Mr.P,who is proud of himself and feel that life must rotates around him alone.

Mr.Q, is quick temper and is nasty for my liking

Mr.R is romantic,suave, and we connected together only to date for some months and his girlfriend suddenly come back out of no where. 

Mr.S,who I have knew for almost three years, and he has never even tell me what he really want from me...But anytime we meet,always make move for sex.

Mr.T,behave like a Teenager, just not mature for to be a man in my book,he is always afraid of me(as if I carry fire on my head). Everytime "I dont want you to be angry, I dont want to displease you).

Mr.U, want me to Understand he likes me, but he just want an acquitance.

Mr.V,is so far away, but want virtual relationship,God knows whether we'll ever meet.

Mr.W, is married and want somewhere where he's going to sow his WILD OATS

Mr.X, is eXremely cool but love switching off and on at will

Mr.Y, is your dream kind of guy but he like women like mad. and want you to understand,you are the only one.

Mr.Z's zeal for us to get marry as soon as possible,send me the creep.. I wonder what he knows about me to wanna do that.

Just where in the world,would I start from,I really wish I knew the way to a man's mind,It could help me in determining which of them is a sheep in wolves's skin.

And time is ticking, I watch has days turns into weeks and weeks into months and month dragged into... Yet nothing has been close enough to it for me.

So I kept on pondering if the problem is from me but I cant pin point,what it might be. Am I demanding too much? Thats a big NO. All I just want is love considerably.I always want to be the number one priority in a man's life and most of the time I ask myself if I have been fair with my expectation.

Am I too choosy?Many of my friend says that am too choosy but how will they have known? One of them said is because am pretty and working in abank(And so what?)that I wont settle for less. But he was far far wrong. I've dated a guy before who doesnt have a car and still stays with his parents.Because I like him,he is all I want in a guy but the snag is...He has a girlfriend before.Where am I getting at here.. I'm that kind of person who just want to date a guy because am comfortable with him and not what he is. All I just want is someone that will always be there. Not all women are gold diggers, there are other ways you can take care of your woman other than being financialy bouyant enough. There are women who doesnt give a hoot if you have a job or not, they just want a man who care and who is attentive to her needs.

Yes every women hold the believes of finding a good looking guy, witty, working class,gentle,madly in love with her etc, though we understand that is in the perfect world, in reality check is very rare to find such men. So we all make do with whatever we can get.
But I dont see why we cant be happy as much as we want, be love as we want to be loved, receive as much as we give.

We crave for a perfect boyfriend who actually wants to commit and have a long term relationship. But most men want the opposite, most men want to have sex, flings with a girl first before they even date her.Is so annoying that they only see us as a casual dating partner,how come their is no future in it for us?
I told one of my toasters one day that, come, I have known you for almost three years and since that time,we've both been single, how come things never work out between us? He said that I'm the cause,that I probably dont like him.

But I do like him, I just don't buy the way he wanted to go about the relationship,everytime he pressured for sex, ofcourse the answer is no!). This guy and I, have not really sat down one on one to talk about if we really wanted to date eachother.

Every guy want to have a taste of the pudding first before anything serious can come out.
My question is, is sex the yardstick for starting a relationship?
As for me.. I would have love to burn my running shoes here and now but I'll still be running till I can get a man without an attitude to motivate me in burning them.

Sex and Love making ...

Gone are those days when everyone's notion about sex was is for reproduction.Now people enjoy sex for various reasons.Though relationship is not based on sex but its proved that 70% of the stimulus in a good relationship depend on eroticism. Sex is the pivot on which a relationship rotates.But should not be the basic.

Love making ought to be like food. Not something anyone rush into. Just like you take every minute detail in preparing your delicacy so also should sex. I mean love making because sex and love making quite differs.

Most men mistake having sex with making love. While having sex is the act of sharing pleasure with your partner,making love is the emotional act of loving and adoring your partner,women appreciate lots of kissing,cuddling,romancing,foreplay than just climbing,pour and roll off.

Which is very bad. A good guy that knows his onions should always ensure that his partner also get there if not reach orgasm. But most of the time we are all guilt of this offense. Most especially guys. The babe might still be patient enough for the guy to cum no matter how long it takes him to reach there.

Most women, do not even get to cum, they just pretend,some even go as far as faking orgasm just to make make their guy happy and boost his ego. But it really be shouldn't about that. Not every woman can achieve orgasm,we shouldn't pretend rather we should crave it and work towards having one. Though sexual satisfaction can happen with or without it. Also men should learn how to make their woman satisfy and should resist tiredness,weakness and sleep.. Sex ought not to be a one-sided thing.

Also women should tell their man what they really want or not. There is nothing wrong in showing him where you love to be touch. You could try non-verbal clues can also help him to know what you want. Such as gently pushing his hand,mouth or what have you to the spot you'd love to feel him. But truly most women rather shy on bed, especially Nigerian women,they are always afraid of what the men will think of them if they offer too much but I bet you, guys don't really enjoy a woman who just sleep like a log of wood. They want to see some sensuality oozing out of their woman. They'd want to know what you feel with the way you move,groan and moan or even scream.

Sexual intercourse is a serious business meant for adult and married couples..So you both should work at what make you feel comfortable and happy. But be careful and be protected always.