Making Love And Relationship Work For You.

Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning

People go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others. There is no extra special relationship, none has a rare ability to do better than others. We are all just trying.

And yes we are all differnt in our approach to making it work. Because some go to extra effort to understand, develop and explore what they have. They read books, they investigate, and they put great effort into knowing and understanding what works and what doesn't work for them.They know what is good for them so they consciously feed on it and practice it.

They know there is no limit to the fun, joy excitement and enjoyment they can experience, they understand marriage and relationship cannot be left to mere chances.You really must work on it. They are aware that there are laws governing relationship and the outcome of that results. It is called the law of sowing and reaping. Some people want to sow the wrong things and still expect things to be wonderful, some want to walk in ignorance yet hope things will work out just fine. The truth is you get what you think you deserve.

We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. You must know that the more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves the way we are, and why we don't accept others the way they are.

Though love is a tricky thing. One must distinguish between what the mind says and what the heart says, and then we must decide which to follow. I must point out here that people who listen to their minds consider themselves the wiser ones. But the people who are led by their hearts are the luckier ones. If you look for love, you will find it but if you deliberately look for an obstacle to love, you will also find that too; the choice is yours. But if u painstakinly search for love. You will defintely see that too.

Hoever you must know that there is no limit to the joy, the romance, the victory you can experience. God created every relationship to excel.Work with God and he will show you how. Be ready to learn from others what you don't know. It’s important for you to remain empowered so that you don't make choices out of need or desperation. If you remain empowered enough to claim what’s your’s, remain true to your identity, and advocate for your dreams relentlessly, you will surely get it.

Some points to work on:-

1. You have a great role to play, in bringing out the great potentials within your relationship. You need to know them, develop them and use them to the full.
2. You need to know the importance of self loving, remember loving come from within.
3. You must understand and see love and relationship as they are and not what you what you want them to be.
4. You can never have everything on a platter of gold. Though every person is entitled to chose the path which works for them.
5. You must not lay too much emphases on looks or sex appeal because looks can be deceptives.People only want to see the substances you are made of,not looks without self respect or brain.
6. You should equate loving to happiness, so the more you want to be happy, the more love you should exude.
7. You need to know the importance of setting clear boundaries and when you say NO,meant it. Never settle for less.
8. You must learn to make a good friendship out of your partner,always remember friendship is the food to a good relationship.
9. You must understand and know what you really want out of the relationship.
10. You must always remember that anything worth achieving is worth working for.
11. You get what you believe you deserve. So aim high.
12. You must redefine your self worth and what you stand for
13. You need to know the difference between want and need.
14. You must share same values and ideas,your want,needs and interest must go through one channel.
15.You must make things happpen,bear in mind that wishing for something to happen and working toward making it happen are two different thing. So set the ball rolling.

So the bottom line is that is only you that knows what is good for you and what is not. So make a choice now and start living and loving. And lest I forget always know that there is absolutely joy in loving and being loved in return. Make it work and make it last.

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Dabizniz said...

"If you look for love, you will find it but if you deliberately look for an obstacle to love, you will also find that too"

very very true nice post

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Ms. SpicyTee said...

Sure bro.. Immediately...Thought u re on it b4? Thx

Dabizniz said...

it's there but name is different now.. you are so couple of months ago

L-VII said...

Well, you're right. Love is also hard work and compromises, it's not all attraction and romance.

I enjoyed that.


BSNC said...

you are right. love is not any easy something o,but at the end of the dat love conquers it all. nice post

have a lovley week

MilesPerHour said...

Lots of great points in your post. I appreciate hearing other's thoughts so I can better myself.


Love is indeed hard to find...

Nice post.

How far, babe?

Nice Anon said...

very true.

Beyond said...

great write-up.....can't really say to much about love but i do agree with most of what you have said.

My World said...

I just love that quote...
Great post chica and thanks for sharing those pointers.

Buttercup said...

well written, sweetie..

Tee said...

i love your love posts oh.

Anonymous said...

nice quote hun.....lovely

aloted said...

love oooo love...may God help us all as we learn to love...

how u doing lady?

Writefreak said...

This is love 101...i like the part about working with God to show us how! He is love and He ordained it...only Him can help us to love right!

miz-cynic said...

y is it difficult for me to comment onm this ur blog sef. i love the way i look when i'm in love.i look very hopeful not a lot like my cyniocal self

dating women online said...

OK so why do woman love a man with confidence. Well simple really they find it sexy and a turn on. Maybe its because they feel like they know they are being looked after and protected. Or because its a big hit in the bedroom you get my drift.

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