Relationship....Are You Looking For A New Love?

Many People do not know that its always better to be alone than be in bad relationship every now and then, but life has a way of making one change his/her minds from unwanted thoughts.

And as long as one craved for a company, guys will always be guys,(hmm point of correction people will always be what they wanna be) You can either play desperate to them or play hard to get, they knew what you want and they know what to say if they must get at you.And once they know u are desperate in finding love, dating, marriage or what have you..they will treat you as they deem fit.
If a man is as good as he says, he'll romance you by every means he knows how to win you over.And if is a woman..she will flirt and seduce you until she get what she want....Nothing is guaranteed!!

See you might probably have been hurt before and in your mind's eye,every man/woman are the same, but you will never find out unless you give it a short.Also learn to be friends first for along while without promising anything.So if you find out that it wont work.There shouldn't be anything too tight in your gut;in relieving yourself from unwanted situation

I've learned that:

* Become friends first, and then if you both feel like you want more... then small steps, one-at-a-time, no rush! If its REAL, it will happen.

* Friendship is a good thing to build a relationship on, once you have a good foundation, you build on it. ...Never letting go of that friendship because that's what started it all. I've found out that what you do need to look out for,Is someone that you are comfortable with.Trust,love,faithfulness,sincerity etc will be earn along the way.

* One don't need to rush love... it'll happen when you least expect it...Just take that time in finding it.

* Date for a while and learn about one another. Past, present and future thoughts.

* Compromise if you must, everyone has to compromise a little. But with little sacrifices that we make both party happy.
....You cant possibly get everything on a platter of gold.Most times, you do really need to compromise.
I have always been someone that wont trade my wanted quality for anything.But after seeking fruitlessly. I found out that I do need to bend a little.

* Then make the best of the relationship; finding the perfect match for oneself is not easy because if it was easy finding a good person everyone would have one... Some people settle for less... the wise ones are picky, and choose someone who as beautiful inside as they are outside... Somehow everything works out in this world, just the way we want it to be, some good/some not as good. We choose our own paths, make our way. Its just life... Be what you want to be, don't let anyone hold you back.

Above all you need to check yourself too,maybe the problem might even be from your side,maybe you are not yet ready to give up your freedom and singleness.. I know there is a pot for every lid..someone is out there for everyone... One just need to find it patiently.
So my dear.That's what I have discovered about relationship and finding new relationship.Hope you find some point in it.

NB: I posted these on Facebook long ago and it add mad comments,will find time to upload them in here sometimes soon.

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MilesPerHour said...

I agree with everything you said. I rushed it once and ended up married for 12 years to someone I wasn't compatible with. I will add that we respected each other enough even after all that time to let the other go find happiness.

Today I am in a great relationship - 2 1/2 years now. We didn't even date for the first three months of the getting to know you part.

JustDB said...

Very well said Ms SpicyTee -- Errr are planning to do an Oprah in future or what?

Tigeress said...

Amen to it's better being alone than being in a bad relationship. I SO agree with u!

Nice blog. :)

doug said...

I totally agree about not promising anything at first. I learnt that the hard way. I'm prone to jumping the gun. Its been hard keeping that in check but I agree that its very important. Thanks for sharing this

Chari said...

well said and delivered...I love all the cogent points you made mention of....

Buttercup said...

thanks for sharing!

one thing that has got me confident in my present relationship is our foundation of solid friendship..

jhazmyn said...

"One don't need to rush love... it'll happen when you least expect it...Just take that time in finding it"

True, i've heard many ladies use the excuse...i'm not so young anymore..cant be as choosy as i used to be..so sad things mostly turn sour for them afterwards

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